It’s Not A Coincidence – They Don’t Exist

I don’t believe in coincidences.

Yes, punch me in the face. I believe everything happens for a reason. I believe in fate and destiny, and all that whimsical unicorn rainbow stuff.

If we changed one choice from our past – the good, bad or horrible – we’d change the entire course of our lives.

I’m one of those people who, without fail, when the worst happens – a death for example – will say “something good always comes out of the bad.” And it does. With time, it does. Not everyone sees it though.

Everyone enters your life for a reason. Sometimes, it’s a person who helped you through a bad time. Or it’s stranger who sits next to you on the bus. Or a friend who encouraged you.

Then, there’s finding love. A soulmate.

Today, one of my friends posted an interesting story on Facebook: “The Biggest Mistakes People Make When Choosing a Life Partner.” Common reasons were desperation and fear of being alone. Another is not following your heart and running like the wind the moment an issue arises.

I related to the “Romantic Ronald.” The soulmate concept.

I’ve had countless mad crushes on people. Countless diary entries proved in ink: “We’re perfect for each other. We both love shellfish and Riverdance.” Or “We have so much in common. I love pineapple on my pizza, and so does he.”
I’m a hopeless romantic. Probably why I write romance novels. There’s nothing wrong with being a “Romantic Ronald,” as long as you’re not staying in the relationship because “we’re perfect for each other. We both like country music.” No. Just, no.

It’s choices and decisions. People who come into our lives without reason have a purpose. We just don’t know it at the time.

Then there’s destiny.

Destiny can’t be pushed. You can’t rush what’s meant to be. Everything falls into place when it’s meant to happen. There’s a saying, “I wish I could turn back the clock. I’d find you sooner and love you longer.”

As sweet as this is, the issue is timing. It’s not in either side’s favour.

Maybe the person was with someone else; they were living in another city; their lifestyle didn’t suit a relationship. Or simply, the person was enjoying their singlehood.

Whatever the reason, you can’t have coincidence without timing. And you can’t have timing without destiny. If it’s meant to be, it will.

And if not – it’s for a reason.